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Self Spanking And FemDom

This is more like a general survey: I would like to find out how many of you are also into FemDom. I received various e-mails by different people who said that they would like to be dominated by a mistress not just for discipline, but in general.

 

I might look further into the topic. What do you guys think?

Have a great weekend, everyone- and don’t forget your maintenance spankings!

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42 thoughts on “Self Spanking And FemDom

    • How exactly? Would you like if I would expand the topic here? I have a couple of friends who are actively practicing it, I could get them to do a couple of posts here.

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      • Some years back I had an “arrangement” with a lady older than I. I like to be spanked OTK or bent over. I’m not into caning particularly but a strap, paddle or hand spanking is very erotic. This lady was one of a rare breed who actually dealt with me for her personal fun and amusement. It was coupled with some humiliation which I enjoyed very much. No longer I’m afraid which is why I have turned to self spanking. Not sure how all this will evolve on here, buts it’s fun to see other comments.

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  1. Hi

    Well I am as we have corresponded a spanking fan. Femdom is certainly part of that scene but overall I enjoy discipline and erotic spankings. However I welcome any chance to explore other kinks.
    Ron

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    • Thanks for your comment – yes I know, that’s why I ‘m asking myself if you would like if I expanded the topic here? I have a couple of friends who are actively practicing it, I could get them to do a couple of posts here.

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  2. My main interest is spanking (both disciplinary and erotic) though Femdom, at least light Femdom, is definitely an interest as well. It would be interesting to see that topic explored. Not sure how that would be done here but it sounds quite intriguing.

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  3. Oh, yes. Being dominated by a woman is something I’ve fantasized about for quite sometime. But can you be clearer about ‘dominated but not just for discipline’? Do you mean being a slave (not much into that), or being barked at and sworn at (not much of a turn on there)? Or do you mean being ordered around in front of others (humiliation could be fun), or perhaps spanked or told I was going to be spanked in front of other women (embarrassing but exciting). I guess it comes down to intent. I spank myself and ocassionally get spanked mostly for fun and pleasure. It’s a real turn on for me. So a Professional Dom who really knows how to ‘push those buttons’ would be wildly fun. Would love to hear from one in your blog.

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    • Thanks for the comment- yes there are quite many facettes in FemDom, which is the main reason why I’m trying to figure out more. It can integrate spanking but doesn’t have to, necessarily. As I’m a total spanker, I would always integrate lots of spankings.

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  4. I haven’t had person experience in femdom but I crave to try the experience.
    And what maintenance spanking do you mean, exactly?

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  5. Hi Miss Jessica and Everyone else

    Well this is my take on Fem Dom! I think it depends on how both sexes look at this point of view as this can be very very open not only to dominance! but persona, influence drive and what is the attraction that you the Sub or Dom want from one another.

    I personally have had much experience in relationships in this area my self over the years! and the release can be magical for both as myself who is naturally submissive, but I have found for a dominant person! the roll for a dominant partner is just as magical! and yes I am talking not just about Spanking and discipline now! I am talking about the opposite sex taking full advantage of you! and you letting them have their total way with you.

    It may sound like only something that someone who is gay or Trans Gender would do! that is not correct. It is also well known that also that many Bi and even strait Guys’ also have and do like to be Cross dressed, given a flogging with a whip! Spanking, Scolding, Hard Core!! but yes even Golden Showers, and yes even given sex by a lady by and with a strap on. This is nothing new! and is no secret that some men do like to be dominated and given this release! and their is evidence of that from many on this site! and that is understandable! as often Fem Dom Dominance Self gratification, Punishment and Discipline for different things for different folk! go hand in hand with Mistresses’ and people in discipline alike.

    Personally I seek strait out discipline! and punishment from my Mistresses! for the Mistakes’ and bad doings that I make and do! that being online with Miss Jessica or if I am over my own Mistresses knee having my bear bottom tanned! or caned over her spanking chair.

    I don’t seek Fem Dom from those who are punishing me! As not giving me pleasure as I try to separate the two! however that is my life! and that not to say others’ should do the same.

    I have a Life with a Dom girlfriend partner on and off in which she and I have for some time lived the role of me being Sub her dom! it teaches me to have a lot of respect for women and also it adds more discipline and pleasure to a alternative life stile! she has only ever agreed though ever to spank me twice as punishment! which is a shame because she was good at it! and she has done much harder things to me than spanking! so I don’t know! some people find spanking a no go area! maybe Miss Jessica you can explain.

    For those who are seeking some sort of Sub discipline on this site! you could ask Miss Jessica the specifics of the Fem – Dom you have in mind! and the level in which you whish to be dominated. You could also ask for Miss Jessica to create a scenario for you to follow and to go from there! along with others on this site!.
    remember these are just ideas I am thinking of.

    I also don’t seek my own Mistress to dress in a personal dominant way! than to be her self! this relationship works very very well, and she always dresses very nicely! and part of the respect that I have with her and that she like with me! is the fact that I would never ask her to do so! as I respect her as my Mistress, and she will dress the way she sees fit! not me, and that I am there to be punished by her not anything else.

    Having said that I am interested on your ideas Miss Jessica and those on this blog on what it is they want from this.

    Sub – Dom is a very wide a long area! and go’s far into a lot of things.

    Regards

    Joel

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    • Great comment, thanks for it! I am looking right now more into FemDom, it won’t be about the sexual things as you mentioned them, I’ m all about discipline. Various scenarios are in the works, too.. it takes time.

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  6. Hi Miss Jessica and others out there!!!

    Please also read first email up top first as that is important to this second email.

    Just a few more ideas about how you may be able to do Fem Dom online with results that may work out for all!!!!

    Maybe have a prop or a uniform handy that you would image that you would like your Dom to wear to punish you and dominate you before your online demands are met! like wise you can dress in the Sub way that you plan your self! also let Miss Jessica or whoever is dominating you know this before hand and after! so you are both on the same track as this would be key.

    One thing about Fem Dom though is though and I must stress this is that everyone has their different ideas and persona when it comes to their idea of what they see as dominant in a man! and a woman! and the same as in a submissive. Many people think everyone thinks the same! when in truth everyone thinks’ very different to every individual as everyone is their own person and own self with their own mind.

    I remember the days when Medonna used to get around the stage dressed in leather as a Dom Mistress for a while! or gave that image!! to be honest I found Belinda Carlisile more Dom! in her Suites she used to wear on stage in office gear! and she was always fully dressed! But that just me I don’t think ladies have to always try to dress or put on hard core stuff! to be Dom!

    . To be honest to most ladies out there you may be surprised to find that often the simple day to day office! and house wife dress, is just as domineering to most men as a lady trying to fit into that way to tight leather outfit.

    It’s also so nice to be dominated by someone being natural, and being themselves and it makes them and always makes me feel that much happier with what is going on.

    Regards

    Joel

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    • Haha I almost spilled my coffee here .. Belinda Carlisle more Dom than Madonna 🙂 to be honest I always thought that Madonna is masquerading too much. The clothes part is important, too – I can confirm.. Thanks for your comment!

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  7. Hi Miss Jessica

    Thanks for the response! yes I like keeping my discipline needs only punishment! and for my discipline needs discipline only! not sexual! though I do naturally also have a sub dome life that I keep separate for those reasons. As though I seek my physical, and online Mistress to punish me when needed, and to discipline me in a dominant way! that is as far as it goes! and that is what I seek to keep me on that discipline track I try hard to keep.

    My Sub Partner! on the other hand! she thinks at times I am way too hard on my self! but she like’s to dominate me the other way! which also makes me completely respectful to any lady that I am around or meet! and I always try to promote the good things’ that women do! also without all of your help! including all the different dominance in all different areas you all do for and to me! and the encouragement also even after punishment! has helped me greatly!.

    Sorry about the coffee! with the Pun about ( Dom Madonna and Dom Belinda) I did mean it though! haha. I do have respect for those two! As they still performing today! all these years later! and both still look in great shape and no signs of slowing down! that earns a lot of FEM respect! or should do! for a start.

    I do have a particular, sense of humour at times.

    Regards

    Joel

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    • Joel,

      as your disciplinarian I can confirm that you’re doing well, but you’re not too hard on yourself. You need discipline, but that’s hy I’m here.
      Have a great weekend, and do some 30 maintenance swats tomorrow.

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  8. Helllo there. I am a new follower to the blog. I generally try not to comment without having a chance to catch up first but this is a topic.

    I have been living the Femdom lifestyle since 2004. I do not have any masochistic tendencies but the discipline side of things has had a very important role in my life with the women that I have been involved with. While I’m draw more to the control dynamics than discipline in general, regular discipline is definitely a part of those control dynamics.

    I enjoy reading about Femdom and would be interested in seeing those posts.

    Take care.

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  9. OTK Chair Idea’s for Fem Dom

    Hi Miss Jessica as you know I give my self a daily maintenance spanking every day of 20 swats with an implement. I have normally done this bending over, bending over something, or laying on my bed on my belly on pillows with my bear bottom raised for the spanking!.

    As an experiment and I have been thinking about this for some time! I have a good strong thin plastic garden chair that along with some pillows or the like on it to make it soft to go over like going over some one’s lap! would give me that over the knee experience! I gave this a go last night and was surprised! on how well the chair and pillows worked, and it even gave me that proper over the knee spanking angle which was interesting!.

    I did the same thing today and think though that with some artistic creativity that many of us could make this self spanking experience a lot more over the knee realistic, especially if those of us was to start making wooden! plaster knees, legs upper body’s and then dressing them for this experience! to make our sessions of internet Fem Dom Discipline punishment a more realistic experience and humiliating punishment.

    Just another idea and something I have been personally experimenting that I have found in it’s primitive stages! is already working well.

    Regards

    Joel

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    • Great idea and it combines some great elements! This post is to gather experiences such as yours, so I will direct this blog in a FemDom direction, at least a little.

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  10. Hi Miss Jessica

    I gave myself in the OTK position on chair first 20 swats this morning with the leather paddle and then gave my bear bottom the other 30 swats as instructed with the wooden spoon.

    Also I sent a message to self spankings as a update report on Life stile over last week or so and the need for a particular special punishment as my normal Mistress I can not see until next month! so to make up for not being able to see her this month I need a special assigned punishment.

    I thinking about giving myself a 30 minute spanking with a few breaks! as hard to self spank ones self for half an hour non stop! with hand and wooden spoon, spatula, wooden paddle leather paddle. I thinking about giving my self 100 spanks! scold my self for a minute or two followed by another 100 spanks! another scolding for a minute or two to ones self!.

    As part of this Fem Dom theme you could possibly even give me your words that I need to scold my self with! and this then puts you in the seen as very much been there giving me my spanking. This is another idea I think, and also as your in control of my discipline! you can tell me what you want me the put on to this punishment! how long this spanking should last! what implements I should use! how many spanks I should give my self before I scold my self etc. Also if you want me to do other punishment in corner as I do on bench in tight jeans before after! or wash my mouth out with soap! or do lines or anything else before, during or after this punishment please let me know.

    Another idea for Fem Dom ideas and also as I cant reach my obligation of seeing My Mistress this month! I think this would do a good job and give others alternative Internet Fem Dom Ideas! and being Mistress spanked from you Miss Jessica.

    Do you think this would work well.

    Regards

    Joel

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    • Joel, great comment. Scolding as part of humiliation is very important. Apart fro that, I order you 50 swats as maintenance spanking for today with your hand, and write 200 lines: You need discipline in your life.

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  11. Hi Miss Jessica

    Just got your message, and I shall spank my bear bottom in the OTK position tonight 50 times with my hand. I shall then send you my 200 lines to you in self spankings. I shall also send you my normal monthly accountability report as well as it is now the end of the month.

    Regards

    Joel

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  12. Thank you Miss Jessica

    I shall be seeing my Mistress Melissa in two weeks time as well! on Wednesday night the 19th April. I shall get her to take a photo from my phone when she done with thrashing me! of my very sore and roasted behind that night! as I shall do by the time she has thrashed my well over due visit too her! cuz boy can she turn my bottom a dark shade of red! as red as a over ripe tomato, which is what I need on a regular basis.

    The punishments that you Miss Jessica have been getting me to do whilst I wait for my Physical Mistress have however, been well a truly good enough to compensate for that as since Sunday to today Tuesday along with the spanking of 50 with the belt today, and the 75 swats tomorrow! is keeping my bottom well spanked, and sore and keeping me in line.

    I have sent photos off today after my strapping and spanking with the belt and German spoon! and I also I sent you a photo of me doing my 10 minutes in time out.

    Thank you once again Miss Jessica for you discipline and good work on me.

    Regards

    Joel

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  13. Good morning Miss Jessica

    Yes I agree the regular spankings keep me on track and make me think and work harder. I see my Mistress next week on Tuesday night after Easter. My Mistress will really spank me sooo hard and I will have a sore bottom from it for days after! but that sore stinging spanking really always makes me feel better after and the very sore bottom.

    It always helps me to focus on everything! and a big reminder of my behaviour every time I sit down for days after. The soreness normally last me about 5 – 6 days after her spanking! and boy the spanking she gives me is always very hard, and long! and I expect my discipline and punishment to be nothing less and so does she.

    Thank you so much for your encouragement.

    Regards

    Joel

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    • Joel ,

      happy Easter!
      Thanks for confirming this. I would like you to do 20 minutes of corner time today as maintenance punishment.

      I hope you had a great Easter weekend.

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  14. Hi Miss Jessica

    I did the 20 minutes corner time that you asked me to do! thank you for assigning me the corner time.

    I did it a bit different this time to my normal time out way! I dressed in a plain night gown! and stood in the corner for 20 minutes tonight with my nose in the corner.

    After yesterday hard spanking from my Mistress and the pre spanking I gave my self yesterday ! it was good doing that 20 minutes time of Maintenance punishment on top! to re- evaluate everything I find it calms me down as well as I am often hyperactive! and need to slow down and re – asses my behaviour and sort myself out.
    to really make it set in, I gave myself some 50 swat maintenance Spanking with my hand on my bear bottom Before the time out in the corner! so I was standing in the corner with a stinging bottom! in the corner with my nose in the corner wearing a plain night gown specially after what happened Yesterday on a still sore bottom.

    I did that half an hour ago! and it is now almost 9pm my time! I shall now wear the night gown all night and shall lift it up and give myself my normal daily maintenance spanking before I go to bed of 20 with the leather strap! as I find that appropriate. I shall then have a stinging bottom to go to bed and sleep on.

    Regards

    Joel

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    • Joel, I see your mistress and I have done a great job … your maintenance was necessary. This Sunday I want you to do another 20 minutes and 70 swats with your German paddle, to keep the momentum.
      Mistress

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  15. Good Morning Miss Jessica

    As I have to work most of today! I shall punish myself tonight with the 70 swats with the German Spoon, and 20 swats maintenance with the wooden spoon after I come home! then put myself in the corner for my 20 minutes corner time. As normal after I have done the spanking I shall send you a few photos of my red behind.

    Also as of next week, I am starting a new diet. I want to cut out all meat, Salt and Sugar! in my diet all together! and go veg and fruit and grain 100%. I am that close to it now! it wont’ be that hard! so I shall start sending you my week to week report soon to see what you think. I only want to put 100% natural produce in my body, and no unnatural food in. My concern is the hormones, that are in our meat these days’ that the farmers beef up their produce with! more than the fat that does us so much harm! I haven’t touched red meat for 12 months! only Fish, Eggs, Chicken and Turkey.
    Even Farm fed fish! is also apparently pumped with hormones! so we not safe there nether. I see how I go. I pushing for 100% health and fitness! and only want the best for my body! and your push and spank! always motivate me (WELL IN THE RIGHT DIRECTION).

    Lastly I am seeing my Mistress again on Tuesday night the 2nd May 2017 at 7pm for my next disciplinarian session with her.

    Regards

    Joel

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    • Joel, it’s great to hear that. Honestly where would your life be without female direction? I actually love fish, I believe cutting it would be unnecessary. Instead I want you to give yourself 60 swats with a belt today: May 2nd is another week and you need firm guidance until then.
      Mistress

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  16. Hi Miss Jessica

    Just letting you know that though I have been busy! I have sent through my 5 punishment photos to your email adress! of the 70 swats! with the German Spoon! and 20 with the leather strap! I used the leather strap as I was thinking it more appropriate than the wooden spoon! and I then did 20 minutes in the corner. I hope you think the photos ok! I trying to improve the lighting and angle of shot when I take the shot! not easy with a sore freshly! spanked bottom! but all part of the punishment I suppose yes!.

    Regards

    Joel

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  17. Hi Miss Jessica

    Just had another Idea!!!that came into my head that I think fits’ in Fem Dom roll of things! that fits in the roll of a disciplinarian! punishment! scolding! dominance! and can but does not have to involve spanking as punishment or discipline. The form in which came into my head! is a good thing I think! as this involves just a little imagination, a sheet of paper and pen do document what you did and how many you have done to make up! motivation, and the fitness to do it!!!.

    This Idea also came to me from years ago from when I was a young athlete and I remember having this real tough female coach who had also had been an accomplished athlete in her day! she was in her early 30s at that stage and I and the others that I trained with in the squad in our teens. I remember she pushed us hard! and got every single bit of effort and worth we had out of us every session! and we were also expected to put our practice into our game performances as she would be watching!! so no mucking around in the real games nether or you could expect what I’m coming to in all of this.

    If we did not do as we had been told in a sessions! mucked up in any shape or form! not putting in 110% then we could expect Punishment. This also included something waiting for us at practice if we had stuffed up in our games.

    Our punishments would not be comfortable! I can tell you now! they involved doing laps around ovals! for some periods of time! and been assigned many many push ups! and sit Ups. These punishments’ would mean you would be doing serious hard boring workouts! instead of training! this would teach you to make the right and correct choices! and do what your coach had instructed you to do in the first place.

    Some time’s if the infraction was individual it was an individual punishment! If however it was a Group infraction then we all ended up doing laps! and push up’s until the lesson had been learned.

    I think this is another idea maybe Miss Jessica that you could possibly take on as online (Sports Coach Disciplinarian)! and give out Spanking’s, laps, push ups, Sit Up’s, lines etc! to those of us that do not make our weekly goals! or keep to our plans! and do not perform due to slackness.

    Just another idea! let me know what you think about the ( ladies’ Sport’s Coach Disciplinarian online idea).

    Regards

    Joel

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    • … that’s actually an excellent idea, and yes, I will incorporate such punishments from now on. Sports is great for discipline – what’s better than giving you sports assignments?
      Now I want you to do 20 pull ups and 100 push ups as a way of saying thank you for the idea.
      Mistress

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  18. Thank you very very Much! Indeed Mistress, and Coach Jessica

    Yes It worked very good work out! it took me back a few years! I could not help it. The years came back to me when I was at that age, and I had mucked up! and a boring hard work out punishment was assigned by the Coach! that work out I did tonight at 7pm my time fitted the bill nicely! of 100 push ups which was a challenge come the last ten! and the then 20 pull ups, on top! to push myself further I then made my self do 5 minutes’ skipping with the rope.

    Good Punishment, great discipline and getting a great heart and body work out at the same time!! great result alround!!! So yes Thank you Mistress Jessica and Coach Jessica.

    Regards

    Joel

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  19. Hi Miss Jessica

    This gets the full nods from me! I think this is a great idea! with the elements of Self Spanking! Working Out and Performing and Developing and Goal setting, and doing at the same time! Under your authority. This would all be done under your Discipline/ Push and drive for the level of success needed for whatever is needed to be achieved.

    I think this would be a real great Combo Self Discipline/ Self Spanking Self Coaching Fitness and Mistress Femdom all in one Program on line for those of us that need it.

    Let me Know Miss Jessica when you want me to start.

    By the way Miss Jessica just on that note! last week I had another team season prem’s shield we won. I am proud of that and proud of my team for finishing up Feb – May 2017 champions.

    Regards

    Your Loyal Student

    Joel

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  20. Hi Miss Jessica

    How would a full report of the program sound from me at the end of each week! just like I report my normal report at the end of each month! just send one in at the end of each week, to your normal email address! with photos as evidence which is just as important of course.

    As you are the Mistress and Disciplinarian! I shall leave it up to you on the level of fitness! that you wish for me to do as I respect, and trust you 100% as my online Disciplinarian and mentor! and any other punishment that you require for me to do.

    Remember also that I have also completed both those (Leather Boot Butt Kicking Items) that I designed and sent to you by photo! and think that they would be perfect at times for using to kick my backside into gear at times when needed! as a reminder and motivator.

    I have got my next bear bottom hiding with my Other Mistress Melissa on Tuesday Afternoon! and I am looking at starting to have her punish me once a week! on top of your Discipline and Punishment Miss Jessica! along with on top of my own daily 20 maintenance swats every day! I feel better for all of this being done to me and feel the benefits.

    Regards

    Joel

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