Spanking yourself

Joel’s Testimonial On How Self Spanking Made His Life Better

The fact that Self Spanking can help you in your every day life situations is nothing new, but sadly  I still occasionally have to read critical or doubtful comments regarding Self Spanking.

Isn’t this bad? Too many people need to find out that spanking yourself is a great lifestyle. Not everyone’s life partner is a spanker, too, or you are just single, or you don’t want others to find out about your desire for punishment. And that’s ok.

Our regular commenter Joel has written me a very nice and compelling argument for self spanking  – his own case. [His comments are all over the blog.]

Read and enjoy. [Added emphasis from yours truly.] The original comment is here.

My Self Essay On How Self Spanking & Punishment has helped My Life

Over the years my self discipline has taken many different forms and shapes. I truly believe that though I believe I am not a terrible person! and I do have a strong sense of fun and lightness in the world in which we live in and I work so hard all the time to show my respect, kindness and manners towards all! I find it very important to me that I follow daily plan of rules of engagement! and responsibility and attitude.

Miss Jessica you may say how is that possible! I remember years ago in the mid 1990s when I was a 16 year old teenager working in a restaurant part time doing my studies to go on and do something better! in my life! I remember working so hard all night and putting up with so much rubbish! though you would get good tips and great compliments from some you would be treated like a slave and dirt by others’.

My employer however taught me a great thing’ to remember that the customer is always right! I Know everyone has come across this old saying at some point’ no matter how vile or outrageous they came over as! I wore it like amour! in the end and it made me stronger because I had the discipline to make it work.


The lack of discipline

I was not always that strong of cause! My mother is the lady that made me the way I am! as I say she was in truth my first true disciplinarian! and she truly did have home spanking discipline in her home until I left it at 18, My behind was spanked over her knee from the time I can remember! as a child until I left home at 18! which at the time I found humiliating! spent a lot of time grounded as well.

When I left home though at 18 you think its great! free from mothers terrible over bearing rules, sore bottoms, and boring groundings!! Then all of a sudden after three months’ of being a brat and living on your own as a normal 18 year old does’. Without guidance! you realise why you spent so much time grounded! and over mother dears knee!

And that you need to eat humble pie, and thank her so much for everything she has done for you all your life! getting you through School, Sport, Music, Arts ,Keeping you healthy, Working hard to develop and encourage all your talents, Mother Love when you needed it most! and also taking the time to also not turning you into a spoilt (BRAT) and putting you over her knee when you always needed it and spanking that pouting behind of yours. I still greatly love her and respect her to this day, and I always let her know that.

The need to Spank yourself – Joel’s story!

This now brings me to my own self correction and self spanking punishment side of things now! and it all started when I found that things under very young JOELS! 18 year old Teenage Guidance was not working out so well! and that I still had some growing up to do! even though I had a good job! I was independent! and even at 18 I had respect in my community for the things I had done and achieved. But I still did what young teenagers to when not supervised on weekends!! and that is!! play up! and that some time got me in trouble. Well It did not last long with me! I soon got to my senses’ and I pulled myself into line.

I realised why my mothers’ rules and punishments all these years’ had been soooo effective in correcting my own behaviour and discipline! so I simply said enough is enough to myself and said from this day on


The next day after a disaster of a weekend night with so called friends the night before with a sore head! soon to be joined that day with a very sore bottom for getting my self in such a state! I sat at the table and with a Marker Pen and a long peace of Butchers Paper I put in writing the longest set of rules and the consequence Punishment penalty for each rule brake. Not all involved Spanking but all Punishments would make you stop and think and not want to do it again!! Which is the whole point of consequence and correction in my book.

It’s time for a punishment!

I then Put Blue tack on all 5 large sheets of butchers paper and (yes) hung them up in my kitchen like a naughty little boy that needs visual classroom instruction. I then dealt with the matter at hand! and pulled down my pants and underpants to my knees’ and with a leather strap and slipper on table bent over table and began a long session correcting myself for the way I had behaved that night! thus the beginning of my path to self correction and attitude adjustment for my life.

Its effects

My overall life started to become more respectful and shaped’ and I became a much better much more grow en’ up young man! after a few months’ had gone by! One of the self changes I had made not only in my life style! But behaviour modification and self discipline! and of course the self discipline and confidence I had in myself to now Punish myself when needed if I did break a rule or stepped out of line was there.

Self Spanking and Self Punishment such as Spanking with the normal items paddles, Ropes folded, Bread board, Rulers, Straps, Wooden Spoons, hair brushes and many others would all find themselves being self spanking experiments’ of mine over the time period of 18 to 22! As a self spanker from 1998 – 2002 when I had been naughty.

[Joel shows that the long run is most important]

As I sometimes let myself down and curse! I am also very very good at putting a bar a soap in that mouth of mine and washing it out! which is another punishment over the years I hate doing but keeps me in check.
I Found however that though Self Spanking is a great corrector and Other Self Punishments work it is also good though to make the effort and go the next step and get that extra discipline that one needs. And I think that goes for all of us! we all need that Life long need for correction! in life and guidance and I really do need it! So since 2002 until now I have had the guidance of from once to twice a month depending on my behaviour I see a Mistress to discipline my behaviour with some good old fashioned over the knee spanking with items that leave my bottom sore for a few days! That works wonders.

The punishments continue

Self Spanking and Self Correction are still so important! because the Discipline of self correction and the correction of others, are two very different things! and two very different disciplines, that you lean to have so much confidence from your self! and have so much more respect for those around you! which is what I find so great and almost wonderful about combining self correction and self – Spanking with someone like a Mistress or spouse also spanking you as if the two can be combined as I have now managed to do so.

I have been a self spanker from 1998 until now 2016! And will continue to do so! I have seen several misses’ that have from 2002 until 2016 on a monthly’ basis seen to my correction needs, of spanking punishment and I will continue to do so! As I see a strong need for both in my life for life.

A third disciplinarian in the Mix now of course is yourself Miss Jessica!


since the Development of this great site you have now given people a chance to now discuss their naughtiness! and of course you can now assign them. In my case you have also helped me out greatly in my own way as a self spanker and as someone who already has been self spanker for almost a few decades and has a Mistress!. I thought I had good control! but you have really helped me push my self harder over the line these last few months’ since September when I needed that real Push! Excuse the Pun – (SWAT Across My Seat) That at times is all I am in need of to pull me back into line.
I hope I have not missed anything? out in my essay Miss Jessica, Please if there is anything else you would like me to add I will do so.


Joel, thanks for this essay.

Please keep us updated as you progress with us.



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3 thoughts on “Joel’s Testimonial On How Self Spanking Made His Life Better

  1. Hi Miss Jessica

    Not a problem at all! I am glad my essay was of some useful assistance to something that needs addressing! by those of us that have a spanking relationship with others! and also with our selves.
    As my discipline and punishment passed and present development has proven! to those who say its’ not the same thing! they only have to look at my case!! I must have one of the most spanked behinds out there!! by other people!! Currently one being my Mistress Melissa! and secondly my partner has tried it a few times! yet still I find the very need to also discipline myself! as well as the two are so different and in my opinion people need to come out of their shells! and look at the positives before the negatives.

    You know I look at my self spankings and other Punishments! a bit like the way some one Self – Grooms themselves! People take time to have a shower or bath every day! we clean our teeth a few times a day! Floss our teeth! brush our hair and try and keep our selves as clean as we can for good health!! Well you know I look at our self discipline the same way! when we don’t do anything about it our behaviour and attitude become unbearable! just like some one that has not had a tub or groomed in days’ would be like!!.
    And so to groom our selves in a discipline way! for a healthy clean attitude to life and behaviour of one self in our day to day week to week lives! we need to take action and be accountable for (OUR DISCIPLINE GROOMING)! What better way to start that cleaning and grooming of oneself! than by sitting down! admitting to what you have done that needs, correcting and then dealing with it with a spanking across your bear bottom with an item that will leave a stinging impression for you not to do it again every time you sit down.

    The great thing is as well other than when you have noted the punishment down in your note book! you can be the only person in the world that needs to know about your spanking if that is what you want.

    If more people took up Self Spanking and Self Correction! I think you would have a lot more nicer people in it! with much better attitudes and accountability to their actions! and there would be a lot more people out there with honest hearts out there. On another note! for some there would be those that would be so much less frustrated by self spanking themselves.

    Miss Jessica I do hope that this email also helps your cause on this topic.



      • Hi Mistress Jessica

        10 months on! since this report on my experiences of life long discipline and Spanking!! I have done much this last 10 months which again comes down to two wonderful ladies keeping me so earthed.

        I must thank both Mistress Melissa! and your self Mistress Jessica! for all my progress this year!! Both Mistress Melissa and your Discipline and correction helps me so’ so much.

        Your loyal student Joel.


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